In college I majored in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. Because of this I knew I was going to have the picture perfect family. I had all of the know how. I was educated in what makes a happy marriage and a well adjusted child. It was going to be easy...well, I knew it would be hard but it would certainly be easier for me. I worked in a daycare/preschool for many years. I could see what parents did and how their children reacted. I knew I was not going to use a pacifier. It drove me crazy to see a 3 year old with a binky. I was going to breast feed exclusively the entire first year. I could go on and on about the things I was and wasn't going to do to achieve my picture perfect family.
All of my preconceived notions flew out the window with the birth of my first child. And, with each consecutive child I have bent on some of my preconceived notions. Here is my list of 10 things being a mother has taught me:
- It's okay for a child to have a pacifier up to a certain age. I still think it is creepy to see a child older than 2 years with a binky. It is much easier to ween a child from a binky than a thumb.
- A good nights sleep is important. If having my newborn sleep in my room or even in my bed means we both get a good nights sleep then I will break the habit later.
- Going to the bathroom with the door closed is a luxury. Somehow they no when the door closes and they stand there and beat on it and cry until I come out.
- I can get ready for the day in under 20 min. including a shower.
- Make up isn't required but sure helps me feel better
- I have learned to choose my battles wisely. If my child wants to wear the same pants all week long I don't care..at least they have clothes on.
- When my child is sick it is hard to concentrate on anything but helping them get better.
- A bubble bath and a piece of chocolate can calm any crazy day.
- It's okay to leave a mess to go and play together.
- A hug, kiss, and an I love you from my kids makes it all worth it.
It isn't always easy. In fact it is usually a challenge to be a mother. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world though. I may not have the"picture perfect" family but it is my family and I think it is pretty perfect.